Lessons I learnt and still working on (as a teacher and mother) during this trying time:
1. Accept that I'm in the situation.
I have to work from home, in which the teaching and preparation take up a lot of my time, and I have my own kids to take care too. As much as I dislike it, I cannot run away from it.
2. Accept that it's okay to have feelings like frustrations, anxiousness, incompetence and even anger. But above all, guilt is the toughest feeling that I need to deal with. Be aware of them, observe how they come and go. Even if I fail to do so, it's alright. Just keep practising.
3. Lower my expectations. Refrain from comparing with others. I loosen out what I have expected from myself, my spouse, my kids and also students. Have compassion instead.
4. Focus on my circle of influence. Shift my attention to what can be done that is within my control. Let go of things that are beyond me. Focus in the now. I still complain and worry about things but once I'm aware of these, I try to channel my energy towards what can be done.
5. Ignore the judgmental noises. Seek to communicate differences and look for common ground, but do not expect everyone to behave the same. I keep reminding myself that ultimately I decide what can be done within my given conditions.
6. Take time to appreciate the little things in life. Be contented. Be grateful.
7. Have a support group. People who understand, whom you can talk to, and who won't drain you off but will guide you back to inner peace.
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